MySQL SOLAMENTE IN() cláusula equivalente

este problema se llama Relational Division

SELECT boy_id 
FROM   boys_chocolates 
WHERE  chocolate_id IN ('$string')
GROUP  BY boy_id 
HAVING COUNT(DISTINCT chocolate_id) = ? -- <<== number of chocolates specified

ejemplo:

SELECT boy_id 
FROM   boys_chocolates 
WHERE  chocolate_id IN (1,2,3,4)
GROUP  BY boy_id 
HAVING COUNT(DISTINCT chocolate_id) = 4

• SQL de división relacional

sin embargo, si el chocolate_id es único para cada boy_id , DISTINCT la palabra clave es opcional.

SELECT boy_id 
FROM   boys_chocolates 
WHERE  chocolate_id IN (1,2,3,4)
GROUP  BY boy_id 
HAVING COUNT(*) = 4

ACTUALIZACIÓN 1

...Quiero elegir chicos de la mesa que tengan exactamente los chocolates que menciono. Ni más ni menos...

SELECT boy_id 
FROM   boys_chocolates a
WHERE  chocolate_id IN (1,2,3,4) AND
        EXISTS 
        (
            SELECT  1
            FROM    boys_chocolates b
            WHERE   a.boy_ID = b.boy_ID
            GROUP   BY boy_id
            HAVING  COUNT(DISTINCT chocolate_id) = 4
        )
GROUP  BY boy_id
HAVING COUNT(*) = 4

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